Mr. Manners

I’m going to sound very curmudgeon-y for saying this but…kids today don’t have any manners. Their parents don’t teach manners to them anymore. I’m fairly certain this is not an entirely new trend after all Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory was pretty much all about manners…and chocolate. Nonetheless I am trying to teach my children manners as the grow. Years ago I found this list of manners I thought were helpful so I thought I’d pass them along to you.

Manner #1: When asking for something, say “Please.”

Manner #2: When receiving something, say “Thank you.”

Manner #3: Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.

Manner #4: If you do need to get somebody’s attention right away, the phrase “excuse me” is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.

Manner #5: When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.

Manner #6: The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.

Manner #7: Do not comment on other people’s physical characteristics unless, of course, it’s to compliment them, which is always welcome.

Manner #8: When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.

Manner #9: When you have spent time at your friend’s house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.

Manner #10: Knock on closed doors — and wait to see if there’s a response — before entering.

Manner #11:  When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.

Manner #12:  Be appreciative and say “thank you” for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.

Manner #13:  Never use foul language. Grown-ups find those words boring and unpleasant.

Manner #14:  Don’t call people mean names.

Manner #15:  Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.

Manner #16:  Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.

Manner #17:  If you bump into somebody, immediately say “Excuse me.”

Manner #18:  Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don’t pick your nose in public.

Manner #19: As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.

These are the manners I’m trying to teach my children…what are some of the manners you grew up being taught…or are trying to teach your kids?


3 thoughts on “Mr. Manners

  1. Your list is very good and I tried to teach those very things to my children….I wrote a similar blog because as you feel, parents are sometimes falling down on their job in these times..

    One importanat thing I tried to remember also, is to treat my kids as I’ve taught them…sometimes people think they don’t need to be polite to children…Have you ever been in a store when a little child was waiting to buy something and the clerk looks straight past them and asks the adult standing behind what they wanted. Kids are people too lol ..Diane

  2. Love your post! SO refreshing! Thank you for calling this out…our children, unless lead and taught will grow to be those adults we all roll our eyes at. Worse yet, we avoid. I’d love to reference your post for my readers in a future post. Thanks!

    K. Martini

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